I all the time take pleasure in listening to individuals’s experiences about singlehood, early courting, and even long-term relationships from both POV, particularly males’s. As a lady who’s usually yapping together with her buddies about these matters (the great, unhealthy, and ugly), I prefer to play truthful and listen to what the lads should say about this stuff, too.
During a current Reddit scroll, I got here throughout this OP who shared a narrative of him ditching somebody on a primary date which prompted the query to his fellow bros, “What was your ‘fuck this, I’m out’ on a primary date?” Here’s what he shared:
“In 2012, I used to be 19 and went on a date with this lady we’ll name ‘Kaylee.’ She was 18. Kaylee and I talked for about two weeks earlier than I made a decision to ship it and ask her on a date, which I used to be pumped about as a result of she was down for it.
Fast ahead to our date evening, after I picked her up from her place, she was completely glued to her cellphone. When she bought in and I pulled out, I requested her what do you need to hearken to? We bought a little bit of a drive (we went about an hour away from the place we lived to dinner). She stated no matter, didn’t care, and was nonetheless glued to her telephone.”
The OP continued by writing, “So we get to the restaurant, and I left my telephone in my automotive; I nonetheless do it to at the present time after I exit to eat with somebody as a result of I’m there for them, if that is sensible. We get in, get seated, and he or she’s nonetheless face-deep in her cell (for context, this was when Twitter was nonetheless huge, and he or she was obsessive about tweeting). After we bought our drinks, she lastly bought off her cell, and we talked for a couple of minutes. Didn’t final lengthy, as soon as her telephone lit up she bought proper again on it.”
“So I sat there in silence and determined yep fuck this. I made a decision to say one thing alongside the strains of ‘Can you keep off your telephone lengthy sufficient to have an precise dialog?’ and he or she hit me with ‘Uh huh one second.’ I used to be floored.
Our waiter returned and took our orders, however I used to be accomplished with that date. I excused myself to go to the ‘toilet’ when, essentially, I went to my waiter and requested for the invoice. Dude was confused as a result of our meals hadn’t come but, I informed the dude I wasn’t feeling it anymore. I informed him I’d give him a $50 buck tip if he’d deliver her meals out and put mine right into a to-go field the place the hostess was.
Dude was simply stoked to make $50 bucks I feel, I went again to our desk and shocker she was tweeting. A couple of minutes go by, and the meals comes, effectively hers, and chalked up some BS about ‘it’ll be just a few extra minutes’ however gave me the nod that it was by the hostess. So I excused myself once more, acted like I used to be going to the toilet, bought my meals, and left. It took her almost 45 minutes to comprehend that I had by no means returned from the toilet; I used to be about to tug into my driveway when she texted me, ‘Where are you?'” continued the OP.
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“I didn’t reply, and some minutes later, she referred to as, and I answered it, ‘Oh, I left, about to tug into my driveway.’ It hit her that I legit left; it threw her 100% right into a ‘good lady’ tantrum. Once that began, I simply hung up,” the OP added.
That was a doozy! Now right here is how the numerous males within the thread responded with their very own tales of first date turnoffs:
1.“It occurred final yr, and it was moderately bizarre, in all honesty. I work as a particular ed instructor. I’m in my mid 30s, single, no youngsters, I’ve my time and house. She requested me out. Several occasions. Last time, I stated, let’s give it a shot. 45 minutes of that ‘date’ she spent half that point speaking about her youngsters, what they want, how I ought to take care of them and what I ought to do. Half the time, she ranted about how males are horrible and they’re nothing however sex-fueled monsters, and he or she is sick of all of us. So I mainly paid for drinks and stated I do not suppose that will work. Oh the anger.”
2.“I invited her to the theater and a pleasant meal, making an attempt to offer her some dialog whereas she was on her telephone the entire time. Then, within the subway she sits subsequent to me (nonetheless texting) and I am unable to keep away from shortly wanting and her telephone. She was planning intercourse with one other man for that very same evening.”
—frikanih
3.“In my mid-20s, I linked with a woman on Tinder. We had just a few convos, after which I proposed assembly up for espresso or a drink after work. She was however steered making an attempt this restaurant and grabbing dinner as an alternative. Sounded good to me. She instantly ordered two appetizers and two entrees at dinner as a result of she was ‘excited to strive just a few various things.’ She spent the complete evening speaking about her firm (nearly like a gross sales pitch) and nothing about herself or any questions for me. I paid the invoice with out her objection whereas she boxed up all of the leftovers to take dwelling. I did not hear from her once more after that date. I did not notice til later concerning the development of individuals utilizing courting apps to get free meals. In hindsight, I want I’d left in the course of the date, however I used to be extra confused than something. I undoubtedly had my guard up for my subsequent first dates.”
—JamesTrotter
4.“This was nearly 10 years in the past after I lived in Denver. I met a woman at an artwork pageant one weekend. We chatted and hit it off. I requested if she wished to seize a espresso or a beer one night that week. We had just a few beers at a brewery in my neighborhood, and I believed she was superior. I used to be assembly buddies later that evening at a live performance, so I requested this lady if she wished to hitch us. She stated sure and got here to my home to hang around for an hour or so earlier than we had been going to go away for the present. While we had been on my again deck, she casually pulled out a meth pipe and requested if I ‘bought down.’ I by no means noped out of one thing so quick in my life. She was an artwork pupil at a very good faculty in Denver. She appeared so regular and so good the entire day till that occurred. Wild!”
5.“She informed me some buddies had been coming over with cocaine, and since they did not know me, I wanted to go away.”
—Exciting-Half3577
6.“It wasn’t even a date, however she began an altercation with a drunk man on the practice station and would not let it go. The man began me (as the one different man round), and he or she continued even after I stated she ought to drop it, that it was pointless. She almost bought ME right into a combat with some random dude. She was in any other case seemingly good and nice, however that was an instantaneous, fuck no. Even as buddies.”
—Justmyoponionman
7.“She was terrible to the wait employees and that is simply unbearable to be round.”
8.“She invited me again to her place, the place she lived together with her retired mother, to smoke weed together with her buddies who had been already there ready for her. I imply, that would have been a great time, a foul time, or only a time, however ‘come again to my place to smoke weed with my mother and buddies inside an hour of assembly me’ simply threw numerous bizarre flags. We break up methods, and neither of us tried to schedule a second date.”
—AnAcceptableUserName
9.“This was throughout faculty, like eight years in the past. It wasn’t a date however a hangout in a public place. She informed me she did not wash her hair or physique with something however water and solely showered as soon as every week. I stayed round for the required hour after which made up an excuse that I had homework. She invited me again to her dorm, however I used to be so out.”
10.“Went to a pleasant restaurant, and he or she ordered hen wings. She bit into every of them as soon as, proper down the center, and threw the remainder away. I might say there’s about 40%-60% meat left on every wing. I used to be disgusted. As a matter of reality, I used to be emotionally scarred from watching that. Who disrespects hen wings like that? Such waste. I nonetheless can’t recover from it to at the present time. I would contemplate remedy, truly.”
—chicu111
11.“I picked her up at work, and he or she was already drunk (they had been closed at that time and having after-work beers). It ought to’ve been pink flag primary. But, no, I figured she was as nervous as I used to be and possibly had too many drinks to calm the nerves. Figure I might need some drinks, too (since we had beforehand agreed on a bar). So I parked the automotive close to a subway, and we took the subway. I get to the bar and ask her what she’s having (a gin and tonic). I order a pint of beer. Our drinks arrive. I take a sip of my beer. She chugs her gin and tonic in a single expert slug and orders one other.”
“I’m ending my beer, and we will stroll round and discover a restaurant as a result of she’s gonna be slammed, and possibly meals will assist. I cowl the invoice, and we get to strolling. She’s hammered. I prolong the stroll, hoping she stabilizes and I do not get embarrassed in a restaurant.
At some level, she almost bought in a combat with an individual who was homeless, and that is after I determined the date was over. She is drunk, so I figured I might get her dwelling. In the subway station, she will’t discover her entry card. She searches frantically and, sooner or later, begins accusing me of getting stolen it. Loud, indignant accusations, a complete scene. Then she finds it. We take the metro in silence. I used to be about to be dumb sufficient to nonetheless provide her a trip dwelling. But she wished to hit one other bar. I left and let her proceed her evening on her personal.”
—SmilingMisanthrope
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12.“On a second date with a woman, I went to her home to select her up. She was watching a buddy’s canine — she claimed her canine handed just lately. I’m obsessive about canine, so I used to be comfortable to satisfy him. Super candy older golden. We walked him, and he or she saved yanking him and never letting him scent. She would yell at him if he pulled her to scent one thing. It actually rubbed me the unsuitable manner. I may see her controlling and doubtlessly abusive/narcissistic habits that I might see come out towards ME as soon as any honeymoon part wore off. Even if not, simply how she had no endurance for and handled a canine was such a boner killer. I walked again to her pad and made some excuse that I needed to all of the sudden go.”
—RVNAWAYFIVE
13.“She confirmed up together with her two youngsters and the babysitter. They would sit at one other desk, and naturally, they anticipated me to pay. I left instantly.”
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